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5 Erotic Play Dates To Get Your Juices Flowing

Have you been acting more like an old married couple than two lovers in lust lately? Remember when you were that couple? You know what I’m talking about; the twosome who held up the drink line at the bar because you won’t stop making out; the pair constantly making googly eyes over brunch; the duo whose friends joked invented PDA because you couldn’t keep your hands off each other for a minute.

When a relationship is first heating up, things can go from hot to heavy within seconds. But with time comes familiarity, which leads to routine, which can end in boredom. You don’t want sex to become just another chore! There’s no time like the present to pump the passion back into your relationship. These five erotic play dates will get you so worked up, you’ll want to rush home to rip each other’s clothes off just like when you first got together. So, what are you waiting for? Let the sex games begin!

Sex Toy Cruising!

Variety is the spice of life, especially when it comes to mixing things up between the sheets. Combine role playing with a date to your local sex shop and you have a recipe for one steamy night out. You don’t have to buy a toy in order to experience all the pleasures they bring – just figuring out what turns you both on is great foreplay.

For an even sexier experience, arrive separately so you can “bump into” each other as you peruse the adult videos and vibrator section. Ask this sexy ‘stranger’ for advice on a sex toy you’re looking to buy for your partner, then lean in and whisper what you’d really like to do to them with it. Make eye contact and follow each other to the next display. Play with the different dildos, whips, and cock rings and take turns guessing which ones you think each other’s ‘partner’ would enjoy the most and tell them why – down to every last graphic detail.

Bonus points: Keep up the sexy shenanigans by renting a cheap hotel room to test drive your new purchases before you “bring them home to your partner.”

Stare Me Down

Remember when all it took was one sideways glance and you were all over each other? Well that’s because two of your biggest turn-on tools are your eyes. Tap into your sensual side with this simple and sexy game and you’ll be all over each other in no time.

First, buy your favorite bottle of wine (or tequila!), light some candles, and turn off any outside distractions like cellphones or the television. Tonight it’s all about focusing on each other. Like I said, the game is an easy one to pick up – all you have to do is stare deeply into each other’s eyes until someone cracks. The first one to break or laugh has to whisper something dirty into the other person’s ear. If you both have crazy poker face skills, one designated person has to go first and say something provocative. Take turns as you get tipsy and laugh your butts off as you come up with naughtier things to say. Good laughing releases endorphins, the feel-good chemicals in your brain, which is an amazing aphrodisiac.

Sex Position Pact

Do you have a pen and paper handy? Good, because you’re about to draft up a contract you’ll both be jumping to sign. The Sex Position Pact is exactly what it sounds like – a pledge to each other to try as many saucy new sex positions in one month. Whether it’s one new move a night or two weekly, vow to leave your sexual inhibitions at the bedroom door for a full 30 days.

Want an even bigger challenge? Don’t cheat by scouring porn sites for position inspiration. Instead, use your sexiest asset, your noggin, to come up with the wild moves you want to try. Trust me, you’ll soon realize your own imagination is crazier than anything you’ll find online (and a lot more fun). If you hit a shagging stumble block, you can also read passages from my book, Ride ‘Em Cowgirl! Sex Position Secrets for Better Bucking, to learn how to tweak the moves you already love. Together you’ll experience deeper, longer, orgasmic sensations you didn’t even realize were possible!

Reservation for Frisky Fun

You’ll be shouting ‘check please!’ before the busboy even clears your plates after you try my sexy spin on the classic dinner date.

Start your evening like you would any other night out at your favorite eatery. Dress to impress, order some appetizers and wine, and settle in for some quality time together. As soon as your waiter takes the drink orders your ‘dirty dinner’ begins.

Write short, dirty stories on a napkin and read them to each other before the appetizers arrive. Whisper across the table what you want to do to each other when the waiter isn’t looking. Glide your hands up and down each other’s legs under the table as you continue to share naughtiest fantasies. Over your entrees, take turns to slip off to the bathroom separately to pleasure yourself.

If the two of you get too worked up to wait until you get home, sneak off to the bathroom together once the bill has been paid up. Discreetly shut the door behind you before you help yourself to a completely different kind of dessert. Bon appetite!

Shower of Power

Bath time is a whole lot more fun when you do it together. Whether it’s taking a shower in the morning or lounging in the tub after a long day, having your partner soap you up and rinse you down can bring you to whole other levels of pleasure.

Take time to really connect as you lather up and gently caress every inch of each other’s bodies. You can even gently wash each other’s most precious jewels (if you know what I mean) to show your deep trusting connection and erotic side. These actions often awaken deep thoughts and feelings of being taken care of, which can easily lead to heating up more than the water when you do your human loofah impersonation. And remember that bath toys aren’t just for kids. You can introduce something fun and waterproof to give your tub or shower time a little extra buzz. But even if you don’t have intercourse, taking these few moments to be intimate can help you reacquaint each other with your bodies and get your juices flowing.

Don’t forget to towel each other dry at the end, another sweet gesture that often bring back feelings of care and intimacy, before starting your day*

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April 2, 2026
Yes, This Toy Can Make You Orgasm In Less Than 60 Seconds (Expert Review)

It IS possible!

For more than two decades I’ve been a daily Magic Wand devotee. But the Womanizer Next rocked my world. Instead of providing super-strong direct clitoral stimulation, like the Magic Wand, The Womanizer uses PleasureAir technology to tease the almighty clit via gentle vibration and suction.

I’ve been around the sex toy block and there’s nothing on the market remotely like this orgasm-inducing beauty.

The Womanizer Next arrives in an elegant box, perfect for gift giving. Compared to a lot of plastic wrapped sex toys, it’s a classy presentation. Once opened, it can be stored discreetly in its accompanying black satin bag. It doesn’t look at all like a traditional vibrator—and at first glance, you may not know what to make of it, but boy does it deliver.

Orgasm is a reflex and some women need more time than others to ramp up arousal. That’s a-OK. But if you’re looking to step up your response time – whether oral sex, intercourse or masturbation is next on the agenda – give this a shot. Although full disclaimer: I’m not advocating for women to put a stop clock on their pleasure. I’m all for women taking all the time they want and need to achieve pleasure – whether orgasm is the end game or not. (Sex should never be a race and the Big O doesn’t have to be the finish line.)

But the Womanizer can help get you from Point A to Point B faster than any toy I’ve ever tried. And I’ve tried A LOT of them.

For starters, the toy is extremely easy to use. Push the button to turn it on and off, then adjust between eight levels of intensity. (I tend to stick to the first four settings.) Depending upon the size of your clit, there are two clitoral stimulator silicone heads to choose from. You can also purchase replacements separately. The Womanizer Next runs with a USB rechargeable cord, so you never have to worry about replacing batteries – always a plus for those of us who have a well-stocked toy drawer.

I use the Womanizer Next for speedy solo sex experiences, as well as to also get warmed up for other sexual adventures. It’s much quieter than most of my vibrators, which makes it less intimidating to introduce into partner sex scenarios. Nothing kills a sexy mood faster for me than obnoxiously loud toys. “Oh, hey there! Want to play with my pussy and this phallic shaped jackhammer?” Umm, nope.

I typically enjoy giving oral sex more than receiving it and have a hard time climaxing from cunnilingus alone.

However, a quick stint with the Womanizer Next will get me to a point where I can actually come from oral alone. Go figure.

Another scenario: Sometimes, a gal needs to get off – pronto. When I’m stressed, there’s no faster way for me to relax than to masturbate. Orgasms release the happy-inducing hormone oxytocin, which has been shown to relieve tension, and the Womanizer Next often produces fast, multiple orgasms. See, it’s good for you!

For menopausal woman, it’s a godsend.

A recent study, the Treatment of Orgasmic Difficulty in Perimenopausal, Menopausal and Post-Menopausal Women, found that The Womanizer Next may be exactly what women need. Even though the study involved a small sample, every single woman in the study, as in 98 percent, had an orgasm while using The Womanizer Next, and 50% of them in less than 60 seconds. Wow.

Sure, how easily orgasmic a woman is to begin with plays into the equation – how turned on she is when stimulation starts or whether stimulation is optimized to provoke orgasm in the first place. But believe it or not, this technological wonder makes lightning fast orgasms a reality. As in your kitty will purr in one minute or less. I’m not making this up.

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February 3, 2026
How to Seduce a Clitoris ’til She Begs for More

What if I could tweak your talents even higher? From everyday lover to Clitoris Connoisseur? How will she thank you—after the biggest, strongest heart- poundingest orgasms of her dear life?

As America’s Pleasure Coach, I’ve uncovered surprising truths about female orgasms. Easily, the orgasmic upgrades that’ll turn your hands into living sex toys are often simple tweaks to what you’re already doing!

In fact, look at this one surprising truth:

Your clitoral moves are mostly sound. But these guided tweaks are your passport to ecstasy.

Really! With the few hints you’ll read below (and maybe even try tonight!), I guarantee you will take your girlfriend or wife by storm, bring out her TRUE orgasmic potential – then feel her passion come roaring back to you with erotic pleasures you’ll love, time and again.

But first, a quick word to every woman curious enough to be reading this! If you find yourself cheering and applauding the sensual touches I am now revealing to the guys in our lives we love so much (and want to love more), that blue Tweety bird at left will gladly carry your orgasmic tip-offs to all your adventurous friends (including one in particular!).

Okay guys, try this tweak next time you’re in the heat of foreplay: Do Nothing.

That’s right. When was the last time you got good advice, and that advice was to Do Nothing. Yet here’s what I mean: As you’re gently fingertipping her clitoris, and you feel her excitement on the rapid rise, instead of rubbing faster and faster, simply pull back your fingertip ever-so slightly and do Absolutely Nothing!

I guarantee you will drive her insane with lust. In fact, her clitoris may actually begin chasing your fingertip in search of the intense pleasure of your touch. So enjoy the chase – then resume giving her what’s now become a matter of urgency!

But what if her clitoris is still a bit of a mystery to you?

Try this:

Too bad they don’t teach this in school. Bet you’d pay attention then!

Knowing the “how” of clitoral touch works best when you know the where. And while every clitoris is as different as every snowflake – some hiding and others easily seen – you’ll always find the clitoris atop your lover’s two inner vaginal lips, cradled just below where they gracefully arc together (see illustration).

So how does it feel to her when you caress her clitoris just right?

Pretty close to how the head of your penis feels when she touches you just right. (And that’s a BIG clue to controlling the pace and pressure of how you touch her!) Now, the moment you try on your lover the technique I’m about to share with you—I guarantee you will magnify the sensuality of your touch so much, you will easily send her down that slippery slope to splashdown in Orgasmland.

Here you go:

The BIG secret to delight her with the biggest orgasms EVER comes in one 4-letter word.

That word is Lube – as in personal lubricant – which I guarantee will light up every one of the THOUSANDS of clitoral pleasure receptors packed into her tiny pleasure button!

Some may say that the natural lube provided by Mother Nature is all that’s needed. True… for some women, some of the time. But vaginal dryness, caused by medications or dehydration or bad timing will cause your gentle fingertip to feel like SANDPAPER on her clitoris. (I speak for all womankind when I say, “OUCH!”) Next time, try a little drizzle of a slippery water-based lube you can easily get at any pharmacy, or online, and you will QUICKLY glide her to sexual ecstasy.

How on earth do you think she’ll reward you??

Whenever you learn a cool new move playing your favorite sport, you probably score more, right? Same goes for sex. I hope you’ll try these moves I just shared with you, and I guarantee you’ll run up the scoring!

To sum up: Passion is a two-way street. Being a giving, generous lover always comes back to you in unexpected, erotic ways.

September 11, 2025
15 Steamy Sex Ideas That’ll Make Your Summer Even Hotter

Our philosophy: As summer days and nights heat up, so should your sex life. The season is a fleeting, vibrant time when you can take advantage of the weather—and the free, fun feeling that comes with it—to get some action.

So pack away your winter sex routine with your sweaters and boots, and give these creative summer sex ideas a try, from flamingo pool floats to rocket pops and boardwalks.

Go Commando

If you’re feeling extra frisky, try donning your denim shorts and flirty sundresses without underwear, says Gina Yannotta, professional matchmaker and COO of The Vida Consultancy. “Not only will you feel instantly sexier, but your partner will start squirming the moment you whisper in his/her ear about your certain lack of undergarments.”

Reduce Body Contact During Sex

Changing up positions is a great (and kinky) way to keep cool in the heat. Instead of positions that maximize body contact, like missionary or spoons, switch to those that minimize it, like cowgirl, doggie style or oral sex.

Have Sex on the Beach

Summer’s the time to realize this fantasy, if you’ve ever wondered about it (and who hasn’t?). “It could be a romantic rendezvous on an empty, moonlit stretch of sand, or a cheekier daylight romp hidden from the sight of nearby beachgoers,” says Yannotta. “For some beach-themed foreplay, give some frisky massaging as you work sunscreen into every inch of each other’s bodies.” Just, uh, make sure you don’t get any inside you, because ouch.

Make a Summer Sex Pact

Agree that with every barbecue, wedding, or event you attend together, you’ll find a way to sneak off and get it on. Tiptoe away from the scene and fool around wherever you can, whether it’s a steamy make-out or a furtive quickie. You’ll both anticipate it from the moment you walk into the party, making everything more exciting.

Play Strip Checkers

You might not think of a rainy-day game like checkers as foreplay, but here’s how you can use it to get in the mood. Write the names of outer garments like shirts, pants, etc., on half of the black squares, and underwear garments on half of the red squares. “When a person lands on a square, the other person removes the designated garment—from themselves or the other person; you decide,” says Cardyn Brooks, erotic fiction writer.

Give (and Get) Some Road Trip Action

The next time you’re both in the car heading to the beach or a camping trip, try having the passenger pleasure the driver—carefully. Don’t let them take their eyes off the road, but get creative. If it’s not oral, maybe it’s a little hand or finger action that teases them and gets them excited to get to your destination—or even pull over and take a pit stop for a quickie. But we’ll repeat: Safety first. If you think you or your partner isn’t the multitasking type who can enjoy a little pleasure while also staying alert on the road, please skip this one.

Experiment with Cool Sensations

Ice pops, ice cubes, ice cream … rubbing or dripping them all over your partner or even using a sex toy that’s been in the freezer for a while can give all the right kinds of goosebumps. It also brings a lovely, cooling twist to sex on a hot day.

Plan a Sexy Camping Trip

Camping is a great way to get the feeling of sex in public, but with the privacy and comfort of a tent. A spot by a river can allow you to enjoy that relaxing sound of flowing water, too. Be sure to find a secluded spot, bring comfy pillows and sleeping bags, an air mattress if you want some extra padding, bug spray, and everything you need to clean up afterward.

Get (Safely) Busy on the Beach

The secret to better, more comfortable sex on the sand: spreading out a bed sheet rather than a beach towel. There’s a lot less loose sand to worry about, and it’s harder to see what you’re up to from a distance. That’s because you can build up a little wall around you. The feeling of the sand underneath you and the sound of the crashing waves makes for a great time.

Try Fun, Frisky Inflatables

Take skinny-dipping to the next level by incorporating a pool raft or tube. Lie on the raft on your stomach and let your bottom half hang loose with your legs floating behind you. Have your partner grab your thighs or ankles and enter you from behind in wheelbarrow or doggy-style pose, or simply use their fingers to give you some pleasure in the water.

Play Kinky Twister

There’s something about summer that brings out the kid in all of us. Take the classic game Twister and heat it up a notch. “Use a marker to write solitary actions—like, ‘take off shirt’—on the red circles; couple interactions like ‘give 2-minute back massage’ on the blue circles; intimate questions like ‘what’s the most public place you’ve ever screwed?’ on the yellow circles; and yoga positions on the green circles,” says Brooks. You’ll likely find yourself naked and twisted up with your partner in no time.

Take a Cold Shower Together

“During other seasons, showering together can be a logistical nightmare of trying—and usually failing—to keep warm, but during summer you can sit back and chill together, talking, making out, and appreciating each other’s bodies as you cool down under the nozzle,” says Yannotta.

Lick Jell-O Off Each Other’s Bodies

It might sound a little cheesy, but Jell-O is a classic summer dessert and can be used to slurp off of each other’s bodies. “Put some in your mouth before you lick your partner’s nipples or give them oral so they can enjoy the squishy, silky texture,” suggests Sadie Allison, Ph.D., founder of TickleKitty.com sex toy boutique and author. Just don’t use too much before oral sex—we’re talking no more than a teaspoon, just enough to give a little flavor—because the sugar could risk throwing off vaginal pH and even leading to an infection if you use much more.

Use Fans to Give You Frissons

Grab a fan or three and let them blow while you get busy. Super-breezy sex will feel like an entirely new experience. If you have a larger floor fan and are feeling crafty, you can also tie a light sheet to the end of it to get air flowing under the covers.

Pack Extra Lube

Sex under water washes away your natural lubrication, says Allison. “It doesn’t act as actual vaginal lubrication, as many people think. So it’s a good idea to be prepared and pack some lube, no matter where your sexcursions take you.”

This article was originally published on Stylecaster.

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July 12, 2025
Here’s the Secret to Making Her Climax During Intercourse

Could it be her orgasm isn’t playing hide and seek after all? Maybe Mother Nature’s just playing a harmless little tease on the two of you.

Why is it that many women don’t climax from pure penetrative sex? It’s because a whopping 80 percent of women need some sort of clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm—either directly or indirectly. This means standard missionary-style penetration often misses the mark from Mother Nature’s little flaw of design. Thankfully, I have the resolution to your non-orgasmic sex woes. Let’s beat Mother Nature at her own fun—by creating an abundance of orgasms for your lover, and even simultaneous orgasms for you both!

All it takes is a little CAT, or coital alignment technique. That’s textbook talk for the pleasurable sensations of aligning her clitoris and vulva with your pubic mound and shaft during missionary-style sex. Now, you can go from barely sideswiping her orgasmic trigger, to directly rubbing and stroking her clitoris for glorious orgasms while deep inside her.

You just need to make a small adjustment to what you’re doing now. Here’s the scoop:

Start in traditional missionary position, only with a small pillow under her hips (this’ll give her some lift along with support for her pelvic angle). After you gently glide inside, shift your body up several inches, so your pelvis is directly atop hers. You should be higher up on her now, with your chest near her shoulders (and no longer face-to-face). With this new alignment, your shaft is now providing pleasurable friction on her vulva and clitoris with every stroke.

Now amp it up: While staying snug and pressed against her, slowly grind and gyrate your pubic mound in small circles as you press against her vulva. Try visualizing her clitoris as you press on it, and resist the natural temptation to lift off and thrust in and out. Just keep your penis snugly inside her, and sense the rhythm she needs. You’ll know you’ve found it when you feel her holding you tighter and pulling you closer with her legs!

Here’s how it works: By simply sliding yourself up slightly, you’re giving her all the clitoral contact and delicious friction she needs to come. And with only that tiny position adjustment, you’ll advance from “good in bed” to “super-generous-five-star-giver-of-orgasms-good-in-bed lover”—and who wouldn’t proudly wear that merit badge?

Now that you’ve got the hang of it, take it to the next level: try incorporating a subtle sextoy like a luxurious vibrating penis ring along with masterful clitoral fingertip touching to keep the orgasms coming and coming…

You’d think Mother Nature would’ve set all this all up for you with CAT-like precision, but it seems she’s left a few fun things for you to still figure out on your own. So next time: Shift > Contact > Come!

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June 17, 2025
6 Sensual Gift Ideas for Dad This Father’s Day
Father’s Day is right around the corner. The kids are getting Dad a card… What are you giving your man…?

Instead of giving your man a tie, shirt or sweater, why not have some fun this year?

I’m going to make it easy for you with my special list of unique gift ideas that use your sensuality and passion to make this Father’s Day one he’ll never forget—most don’t cost a penny. And this’ll be one Father’s Day that you’ll enjoy as much as he does!

Throughout the year, men feel a lot of pressure to perform—sexually or otherwise. Why not take away that pressure? Show him how much you adore him by making him feel like a rock star. How do you that? Well, there’s one thing that every man wants. And the best part…? It’s not just about him. It’s about you, too!

I’m talking about pleasure—the gift that only you can give.

You know your lover’s body and turn-ons better than anyone. This is your chance to show him that you’ve been paying attention to his desires and demonstrate how much you want to make him feel good—both inside and outside the bedroom. So ladies, why not make this Father’s Day the start of a new tradition. Create your own celebration. Here are some fun ideas to help you plan that super sexy gift for your man that’s uniquely tailored by you:

1. Start early with text messages
- Hint that you have surprises waiting for him.
- Keep it mysterious—don’t give him too many details.
- Tell him how much you’re going to rock his world.
- Start heating things that morning with my free list of sexy sext-messages.
2. Get naked
- Help him with a task he’s been trying to finish at home—in your birthday suit!
- If he loves his car, wash it for him naked.
- If he’s into video games, take him on in the raw.
- If he loves golf, wash his balls—naked!
3. Shower together
- Lather him up and scrub him from head to toe. Take your time worshiping his body.
- Give him a good head massage when washing his hair.
- Offer extra TLC when washing his most sensitive body parts…
- Added benefit: When you get down to business later, you’ll know he’s squeaky clean!
4. Get playful on a dinner date
- Wear his favorite slinky dress or out fit—the one you know he really loves you in.
- Whisper sweet something’s in his ear. Remember… slooowly, quietly and breathy.
- Let your hand “accidentally” fall into his lap. Or, from across the table, slip off a shoe and tickle his crotch with your toes.
- Halfway through your meal, let him know that you “forgot” to wear panties. Then prove it.
- Bring a mini whisper-quiet vibe in your purse and excuse yourself to the ladies room for 10 minutes. When you return, tell him you just gave yourself an orgasm with it!
5. Let it ride with visuals
- Men are visual creatures. They LOVE watching you. So let ‘em.
- Get into positions that let him see you and your curves, and how much you’re enjoying yourself.
- Have you tried Reverse Cowgirl? Guys love this position. Try it, or another exciting new position.
6. A big finish
- That’s right. The thing that every man wants. A 5-Star blowjob.
- Use lots of lube and start with your hands. Why not surprise him with a new foreplay stroker?
- Remember, enthusiasm is the #1 thing a man wants from his woman when getting a great BJ.
- BJ’s are the ultimate way for you to let him know how much you appreciate him.
Just like you, men today want to feel connected to their lovers. They want to know that you are satisfied and that you enjoy pleasing them as well.

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June 7, 2025
Your Guide to Female-Friendly Porn—Hot, Real & Ethical
Let’s be honest: diving into the vast ocean of porn online can stir up all kinds of feelings — some hot, some not. One moment you’re turned on, the next you’re cringing, confused, or wondering, “Did everyone in that scene actually consent to this?” That’s where female-friendly and ethical porn come in — and it’s a game-changer for modern viewers.

This isn’t just about candlelit storylines or “porn for women.” Ethical porn is about pleasure that’s mutual, intentional, and real. It’s for everyone who wants to feel turned on and tuned in.

What Is Ethical Porn, Really?

Ethical porn centers consent, chemistry, and care. It celebrates all kinds of sex — from sensual and romantic to kinky and intense — but with a deeper respect for what happens behind the scenes. That means:

Everyone on screen is a consenting adult, fully aware of what they’re filming
- Safe practices are prioritized
- Performers are fairly paid and often involved in creative choices
- Body diversity, gender representation, and authenticity are embraced
- It’s not about limiting what sex looks like — it’s about lifting the standard for how it’s made.
How to Find Ethical, Female-Friendly Porn

Search With Intention

Skip the clickbait. Instead, follow your curiosity to creators who align with your values and turn-ons. Social platforms like X, Instagram, and even Reddit are where many indie performers connect with fans.

Pay for Your Pleasure

If you love it, support it. When you buy directly from a performer’s site or clip store, you’re helping them thrive in a career they choose. Even small purchases or subscriptions go a long way. Avoid pirated or free tube sites that profit without paying performers. Try:
- OnlyFans (https://onlyfans.com)
- ManyVids (https://www.manyvids.com)
- Fansly (https://fansly.com)
- JustFor.fans (https://justfor.fans)
Choose Top Female-Focused Producers and Porn Studios

Prefer polished, cinematic content? These trailblazing studios blend high-quality production with values you can get behind.
- Bellesa Films – Real chemistry, directed by women (Known for female-friendly erotica and ethical production.)
- Four Chambers – Artistic indie erotica by Vex Ashley (A beautifully curated, avant-garde erotic film studio based in the UK.)
- Lustery – Real-life couples, real intimacy (Features authentic, unscripted sex between real-world partners.)
- Sssh – Erotica with real chemistry, values & ethics (Founded by women, Sssh creates thoughtful, ethical, and inclusive erotic films.)
- XConfessions – Anonymous fantasies turned into films (A project by Erika Lust, turning real fan-submitted fantasies into cinematic porn.)
Why This Matters

Supporting ethical porn means you’re helping shift the adult industry toward:
- Safer work conditions
- Better representation
- Sex that’s shown with mutual respect and real pleasure
- It’s a win-win. You get off — and you help create a healthier world for the people on screen.
Quick Takeaways
- Follow indie performers you admire
- Buy a clip or subscribe to a content platform
- Read up on your favorite studios’ mission and performer treatment
- Look for BTS (behind-the-scenes) content — happy, healthy performers say a lot
- Avoid free tube sites that steal content or underpay creators
For the Curious Couple

Watching porn together is one of the easiest ways to explore fantasies, open up communication, and deepen intimacy. Ethical porn is a great entry point because it sets a safe, realistic, and respectful tone that both partners can enjoy.

Pick a clip, press play, and talk about what turns you on. You might just discover something new — in the video and in each other.

Your pleasure is powerful. Choose content that honors it — and the people who make it possible. Conscious viewing is sexy.

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May 27, 2025
5 Reasons Men Who Use Sex Toys Have Better, More Frequent Sex

You may already know this, but chances are, your girl uses a sex toy (or several). Pretty dang hot to think about, right? And although she’ll always enjoy using them alone as an essential and healthy part of her sexual release and discovery, she’d probably love to have you join.

Sex toys are super efficient and amazing and will probably take over the world one day. But they lack in one crucial area: emotion (for now). My friend, that’s where you come in. Along with your undoubtedly magical body, you bring laughter, affection, and unforgettable memories the two of you will never be able to stop talking about. If that wasn’t enough, here are five reasons sex toys will lead you to better and more frequent sex.

1. It exudes selflessness

Some fellas have it in their head that using sex toys is cheating as if sex was some kind of game fueled by the ego. Without getting too poetic on you, sex is so much more than that.

Therefore, the man who can check his ego and enhance bedroom activities for the selfless reason of improving his lover’s experience is the same man who will not only be considered an ideal lover but also receive admiration and reciprocity sevenfold.

2. It helps you, like, get to know yourself, man

It’s all about self-discovery, man. So spark a joint, put on some smooth jazz or that other stuff you’re into, maybe light a few candles… Sex toys will help you map out your body, unleashing the unique and surprising things that make you feel really good. You’ll be all like, “Whoa! Hey now, what the heck was that? I kind of like that.” Then, you can take your newfound body awareness to your lover, so she knows exactly what you like. This will make you a more confident lover (which is one of the hottest things a girl could ever want in the bedroom).

3. It’ll help you last longer

When you practice alone with a self-masturbater like the Hummer, which is as close as it gets to the real thing, it will feel awesome, while helping you build up your sexual stamina for your next encounter with a real-life woman.

And when you use a penis ring with your lover, it can help you go the distance in two ways. First, when applied around the base of your penis and testicles, it can effectively prolong ejaculation via the “squeeze technique.” Secondly, it will trap blood in your penis, so if you have trouble maintaining an erection for an extended time, cock rings will help your erection compete with your appetite (and your cardio). The Tammy Couple’s Ring is the perfect choice because it will help you last longer, while making her come quicker, so you can hopefully orgasm at the very same time.

4. It leads to more orgasms

Sexual pleasure, in its many forms, could not be as accessible as it is today without sex toys. Whether you’re physically disabled, single, or have trouble climaxing, sex toys will ensure you don’t miss out on all the fun.

There are even sex toys if you’re in a long distance relationship. The Moxie gives all the power to the person with the remote, so even if your lover is across the globe, you can still give her orgasms.

5. It will enhance her experience

Guys, you’ve probably already noticed this because you’re totally on it, but many women have trouble climaxing if the clitoris is neglected. It’s biology. So what humanity did was create toys for the clitoris like vibrating wands and clitoral suction toys and vibrating cock rings to more effectively give the attention her clitoris deserves while you’re able to focus on your penetration game. This combination of pleasure will drive her wild, and possibly more so than any other item on this list, make the sex better and more frequent.

Even after reading the points above, some may think introducing sex toys in the bedroom will only benefit her. But who do you think benefits the most when she benefits from something in her life? First her cat, and then… YOU. That’s right, man. If you’re ready for your life (especially your sex life) to reach new levels of greatness, I highly recommend surprising your girl with a new toy.

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April 1, 2025
Amplify Your Oral Loving with These Secret Toy Techniques

Giving great oral pleasure is an art, and if you want to create a masterpiece, you’ve got to equip yourself with the right tools. Even the most talented fingers, lips, and tongues can level-up their oral expertise with a drawer full of sexy accessories. Tickle Kitty has got you covered on the best vibrators, lubes, and sensation-enhancing toys to play wing-man (or woman) to your mouth, and we’ve listed the best ways to play:

1. Keep it Wet and Slippery

Wetter is always better, especially when it comes to oral lovin’. Even the wettest and wildest babes will feel the difference between plain ol’ body fluids and an extra dose of moisture from a sensual lubricant. Spring for a tasty delight like with flavored lube for an added bonus. Once you’ve drenched your partner’s penis or vulva in strawberry sweetness, enjoy lapping it up with your lips and tongue as you explore every inch of their nether regions. For vagina owners, always double-check your ingredients, especially when flavor is involved. A healthy, hypoallergenic lube that’s safe for your insides and outsides—like Slippery Kitty—will be pH balanced, water-based, and free of glycerin and paraben. Drizzle on the wet stuff like you’re making an ice cream sundae and go to town!

2. Suck and Stroke

Just when he thought it couldn’t get much better than a warm mouth and soft tongue, introduce your new secret weapon: a men’s stroker. Penises love texture, and a squishy oral-friendly sleeve, like the Hummer Penis Stroker, brings a new dimension to your head-giving game. The Hummer is full of soft bumps, twists, and turns that feel incredible as they bob up and down his erect penis. Lube him up and alternate between licking and sucking his member with your mouth while stroking him with the masturbator sleeve. If you’ve got a sensitive gag reflex, use the sleeve as an extension of your mouth and suck on the tip of the penis while using the masturbator to stimulate his shaft. No matter how you choose to play, he’ll be in ecstasy with his two favorite things: smokin’ hot oral sex, and a new toy just for him.

3. Pulse and Play

Men’s sex toys have been catering to blow job lovers since the invention of the wheel. It’s about time the ladies had the luxury of top-of-the-line oral delights. Thanks to the Womanizer, vulva owners can now experience all the body-tingling sensations of the most skilled oral giver, all in the palm of your hand. The Womanizer uses tiny pulses of air to recreate the feeling of a gently sucking pair of lips. Although this unique toy is awesome for solo time, we think it also makes the perfect addition to couples’ oral play. Hand it to your partner and use it during foreplay to jump-start the sensitive nerve endings in the clitoris. Once you’re warmed up, move the Womanizer’s suction cup lower on your labia while your lover gently licks your clitoris (or vice versa with a tongue on your labia and the toy on your hot button). This little oral wonder is also a great way to reach your big-O with the helping hand of your partner if you can’t always climax during oral. For tireless lovers (and the occasional tired tongue), the Womanizer hits the spot every time.

4. Jump, Jive, N’ Moan

There’s nothing like a blended orgasm—that toe-curling combination of clitoral and g-spot climax in harmony. Bring some good vibrations to your oral session with a wearable internal sex toy, like the Warming G-spot Swirl. Insert the Swirls curved, bulbous head into your vagina while letting the flatter, outer piece rest on your vulva and clitoris. The internal G-spot shaft will rock you like no other while the vibrating pad simultaniously carresses your vulva’s sensitive nerve endings. Before you get down to sexy business, make sure you’ve got your cell phone handy. This sex-tech vibe connects to an app on your smart phone, where your partner can easily control the vibrational patterns with a single swipe. Givers, take note: to drive her absolutely wild, change your tongue technique every time you click to the next vibration setting. As an added bonus, the Jive teases your partner across the bedroom or across the world. When you can’t get a taste of your lover, the bluetooth connection enables long-distance play time.

5. Booty Rockin’

Oral connoisseurs are always looking for their next thrill. If you’ve tried every sex tip in the book and are looking for a truly unforgettable orgasm, anal stimulation can be a mind-blowing new addition to your oral repertoire. Start slowly with a beginner-friendly small plug, like the Little Zinger. This gently-weighted anal toy is comfortable to insert and offers a little extra fullness as it’s shape stimulates the nerve endings in your anus. Wear it while receiving oral sex and you’ll immediately notice those extra tingles that can only come from teasing your tush. Once you’ve fallen in love with the delicious mix of oral and anal pleasures, spring for a pyrex anal toy like the App-Controlled Ditto+. Let your lover buzz you into orgasm as they take control of the Trio’s remote and three strategically-placed motors while working their mouth over your vulva. If you love blended orgasms, simultaneous clitoral and anal play take pleasure to the next level.

Just when you thought oral sex couldn’t get any better, add a vibe, lube, or stroking tube to bring an extra zing to your tongue skills. There’s no better way to blow your partner’s mind than with some spine-tingling toy tricks!

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November 7, 2024
How to Deep-throat Like a Pro

You probably give good blowjobs. Actually, you probably give great blowjobs. But have you mastered the art of deep-throating? This hard-to-attain skill can come in handy for a truly mind-altering blowjob.

Disclaimer: Deep-throating is not at all necessary for a great BJ, so if it’s not something that appeals to you there’s no reason to feel bad. Its merely something to add to your repertoire if the idea of taking a whole penis in your mouth excites both you and your partner.

And if it does…here are a few tips and tricks to getting it done just right.

Train Your Gag Reflex

Usually the number one reason why people have a tough time with deep-throating is that they have a sensitive gag reflex. A gag reflex is the trigger your brain sends your body when it thinks you might be choking, and releases that lurching in your throat and stomach to get you to cough up whatever might be harming you. (Thanks, brain!) And while that is good for our survival, it’s not great for deep-throating because we’re not really going to choke on a dick.

You can train your gag reflex, however, so that it becomes more resistant. You can try putting his penis into your mouth a little deeper each time so that your body gradually gets used to the sensation of having it there. You can try this with a safe object that is not his penis, as well, but just be careful and take it slow.

Breathe Through Your Nose

You’d be surprised at how many people forget to breathe when they’re giving a blowjob. Deep-throating can be a lot of mental work, but while you’re concentrating you should also be breathing the entire time—through your nose. You’ll be amazed at how much easier it becomes. Also, tighten your abs while you do it. This helps to ease up the gag reflex, as well. We’re not sure why, but it works.

Change Positions

Every person’s penis and throat are different, so changing up positions could be the way to deep-throat sensationally. One position that seems to work (almost) across the board is when the giver lays on the bed with his/her head hanging over the edge of the bed. This opens up the L-shaped throat so that a penis can fit fully in. I recommend starting with this position, then adjust as necessary. Always listen to your body and do what feels the most natural for you and your lover.

Use Lube

Just do it. Spit is not a lubricant. It will get dry. Lube makes everything (EVERYTHING) in sex better. There’s no reason to not use it. There’s even flavored lubes to make your deep-throating experience even tastier.

Use Your Hand

If it’s still a challenge for you to master the deep-throating, wrapping your hand around his penis as you put it in your mouth can create a similar sensation to deep-throating for him. Keep the up-and-down movement of your hand at the same pace as the movement of your mouth for the full effect. Every inch of his penis will be stimulated using this technique, so it will feel fantastic but is also less work for you.

Be in control

Blowjobs can and should be just as much fun for the giver as they are for the receiver. Yes, the act is designed with the pleasure of the receiver in mind, but this should be fun for you, too. As hot as it might be to have him “fuck your face”, you want to be in control when you’re deep-throating. Go at your pace. Stop when you need to. Use your hand, use lube, slow down, speed up. This is about your comfort and enjoyment, just as much as it is about his pleasure.

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October 29, 2024